Dr. Sarah McNeil

Recommended Reading

I am regularly asked to recommend books and on a variety of subjects.  The following texts are my suggestions for those wanting to supplement therapy with some related reading or workbooks:


Relationships & Sexuality

  • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (2008). By Sue Johnson
  • Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition (2007). By Harville Hendrix
  • The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate (2002). By Harriet Lerner.
  • Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life (2003). By Marshall Rosenberg
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide (2000). By John M Gottman & Nan Silver
  • Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want From Sex – And How to Get It (2013). By Marty Klein
  • The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts (2010). By Gary D Chapman
  • Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships (1997). By David Schnarch
  • An Emotionally Focused Workbook For Couples: The Two of Us (self help workbook) (2014). By Veronica Kallos-Lilly & Jennifer Fitzgerald
  • Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Capacity to Love (1998). By Robert Karen
  • Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform Your Sex Life, revised (2021). By Emily Nagoski
  • Queer Sex: A Trans and Non-Binary Guide to Pleasure, Intimacy, and Relationships (2018). By Juno Roche.
  • Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-monogamy (2022). By Jessica Fern.


  • Awakening Joy: 10 Steps to Happiness (2012). By James Baraz & Shoshana Alexander
  • Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time (2011). By Rick Hanson
  • True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart (2013). By Tara Brach
  • Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. Revised Edition (2013). By Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (self help workbook) (2005). By Steven Hayes


Depression & Anxiety

  • Living With a Black Dog: His Name is Depression (2006). By Matthew Johnstone
  • The Mindful Way Through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness (Book & CD) (2007). By Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindel Segal, & Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Changing the Way You Think (1995) (self help workbook). ByDennis Greenberger & Christine Padesky
  • The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook, 4th Edition (2005). By Edmund J Bourne.
  • The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Depression: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Move through Depression and Create a Life Worth Living (2008) (self help workbook). ByPatricia J Robinson
  • The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety: A Guide to Breaking Free from Anxiety, Phobias, and Worry Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (2008) (self help workbook). By John P Forsyth
  • The Mindfulness & Acceptance Workbook for Social Anxiety & Shyness: Using Acceptance & Commitment Therapy to Free Yourself From Fear and Reclaim Your Life (2013). (self help workbook). By Jan E Fleming & Nancy L Kocovski.


Borderline Personality Disorder & DBT

  • DBT Skills Training: Handouts & Worksheets, 2nd Edition (2014). By Marsha M Linehan.
  • The Dialectical Behaviour Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance (2007)  (self help workbook). By Matthew McKay, Jeffrey C Wood, & Jeffrey Brantley
  • Mindfulness for Borderline Personality Disorder: Relieve Your Suffering Using the Core Skill of Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (2013). By Blaise Aguirre & Gillian Galen
  • Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder (2010). By Paul Mason & Randi Kreger


Positive & General Psychology

  • The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living (2010). By Dr Russ Harris
  • Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way we Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (2013). By Brene Brown
  • The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want (2008). By Sonja Lyubomirsky.
  • Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment (2004). By Martin Seligman
  • Flourish (2011). By Martin Seligman
  • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (2010). By Brene Brown
  • Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience (1991). By Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
  • Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Pattern to End Negative Behaviour and Feel Great Again (1994). By Jeffrey E Young & Janet S Klosko
  • Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation (2010). By Daniel J Siegel
  • The Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients (2002). By Irvin Yalom
  • The Unexamined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves (2014) . By Stephen Grosz
  • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. (2007). By Carol Dweck
  • Man’s Search for Meaning (1959). By Viktor E Frankl